See things you'll learn from breakups That You Must Know

Breakups are never good, except in the sense that they increase our experience and knowledge of what to never do again.

Being brokenhearted can be crippling, but because experience is the best teacher, it can also be clarifying.

During the period immediately after a breakup when you are very sad and dejected, people often engage in reminiscence and thorough soul-searching, trying to decipher where and things went wrong.

Here are 2 things you just might learn when you go through that process of introspection.

You should have taken your time before falling in love

Perhaps this might be for those that are quite young, or just starting out with love and relationships.

What you might learn after one or two breakups is that the posh guy and flashy babe you first meet will not be the person youactually fall in love with.

Underneath the allure, good looks and thrilling dialogue, you will, in time, often discover who they truly are, and that is why you should have taken your time to know them a bit more before delving into a relationship.

Don’t be swept into their arms [into a relationship] before realizing they are a beast you should not even have spoken with in the first instance.

You shouldn’t have expected too much too soon

There is actually no sense in advising anyone to enter into a relationship without expectations.

It is perfectly logical, however, to advise you not to let your imagination run wild.

Take things slow and do not build castles in the air.

As much as there is going to be some expectations and hopes of where the relationship should have grown to in a certain amount of time, you should ensure that your expectation stays at the level of your relationship with your partner, at any given time.

It surely is unreasonable to meet a lady only one month ago and expect the bond to be as strong as that of a couple who have actually been together for 4 years or thereabouts.

Some people gel on some deeper level in little or no time, but that is more the exception than the norm.

Rein in those expectations, keep them in check.

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